AITA for refusing to let my BIL see my son after causing me to miss his birth?
I M30s got few close friends from college that I hang out with including my BIL (sister's husband) Austin. My wife and I are expecting our first baby and because this was our first we struggled with understanding things like whether my wife was going into labor or just dealing with pain/soreness. We ended up in the hospital for nothing since she was due in July.
Therefore, I've limited my time out with the guys especially in the evening/nighttime. I've skipped meetings with them to stay home by my wife's side ready for any emergencies. My friends were upset they haven't seem much of me in a while. I explained my situation but they gave me crap about it every time, especially Austin who kept pressuring me into going out for few beers saying he was in my shoes twice and has experience. he said that XYZ signs (can't say it here) mean my wife would soon be in labor and advised me to relax.
One night I caved into going to his farm since his birthday was days prior and I missed it cause my wife got sick. He wasn't happy and whined about it. My wife was with my in-laws and I wanted to call her but couldn't find my phone, I put it on the counter but wasn't there. I borrowed one of their phones after an hour or so of search to call my wife and her sister picked up asking where I was. I was in dismay when she said she was at the hospital with my wife cause her water broke and she went into labor. I couldn't explain I drove to the hospital asap but was met with my FIL berating me for ignoring his text and 18 missed calls. I wasn't allowed into the delivery room cause my wife screamed at me to stay out. I felt awful I waited outside while my in-laws berated me for my neglect even when I said I lost my phone.
(Chris) said Austin hid my phone after seeing FIL's text to get back at me for missing his birthday. I blew up at Austin calling him aSOB for doing this. He said Chris was a liar and swore he didn't see any text or calls and he hid it as joke to scare me a bit. I left after this and haven't seen him in days. The guys got involved begging me to make things right with Austin who didn't know, otherwise he would've told me so it was misunderstanding and my wife bears the blame for not letting me into the room but can I blame her? I refused to see him. My sister said I should let uncle Austin see little Timmy cause he's longing to meet him as family and even cried and said I was being unfair to him and all those years of friendship we had. But I said no I won't let him meet my son after this.
Chris said Austin bragged about it later on then Chris decided to tell me because he thought it was wrong that I get blamed by my in-laws.
ETA: I'm sorry for not responding but I was very busy. And to make few things clear:
(1 none of my family said anything about not allowing Austin to see my son except my sister and my friends.
(2 Chris is one of the guys who were there that night. He and Austin aren't very close and Austin thinks Chris hates him for no reason and doesn't like having him around much but just for the group's sake. Austin tries to keep the peace. In my opinion Chris is a decent guy.
(3 My in-laws are upset with me as well as my wife and say that even though Austin was at fault I too was for being reckless and irresponsible.
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