AITA for ‘punishing’ my boyfriend with no sex after he wouldn’t pay for my birth control?
I (20f) have been with my boyfriend for a year. I have a 3 month subscription of birth control which costs £39 / 3 months.
Last time my pills were due, I had no money. I had gotten a call from my mum who was incredibly sick and had to spend time in the hospital. She asked if I could take care of my siblings and pets. I left the next day.
It was much more expensive than I had anticipated. The train ticket cost nearly £100 on its own. I also did food shopping and overall, the 3 week trip cost me just under £400 (my mum paid me back in full) but I had no money for my BC subscription. I asked my boyfriend to send me the money but he said no.
I explained the situation and he said that ‘a lack of planning on your part doesn’t constitute an emergency on my [his] part.’ I got really mad and said I was taking care of my family and not fucking about spending my money irresponsibly. He said no and that I am not entitled to his money.
When I got back to our place (2 weeks off BC) he tried to initiate sex. I said no. He asked why.
[Me]- ‘I’m not on birth control.’
[Him]- ‘but I’ve missed you and I’m horny’
[Me]- ‘oh well. You’ll have to wait until next month when my pills arrive' (in 3 weeks time).
He got upset and said I was ‘weaponising sex’ and being ‘financially controlling’.
AITA?
EDIT: https://imgur.com/zQCRkvp
To everyone insisting I'm lying and trying to bamboozle this subreddit, read this edit. I KNOW BC is free on the NHS. I choose to buy from Boots online because it was an awful traumatic experience trying to get BC the first time (I was 18). I was humiliated and retraumatised. They asked me when I last had sex (when I was 12) and if I've had abortions/what other medication I was on. I explained I had been assaulted at 12 and had gotten gonorrhea. The nurse (I was at a hospital at this point) called in her co-worker to check if it was 'correct' and proceeded to imply I had lied because '12 year olds don't get gonorrhea'. Every time I went for a checkup (for about a year), I had to explain that I was raped and got an STD as a child because for some reason, doctors don't realise that can happen??? And ALWAYS implied I had lied or got dates/years wrong.
That's not even getting to the blood pressure checks, taking time off work/skipping uni, reviews, etc.
I'd rather spend the money than be retraumatised over and over.
I'm not spreading misinformation. I'm not lying. I'm not trying to rage-bait.
EDIT 2- Can people PLEASE STOP suggesting condoms like my boyfriend is going to combust if we don't fuck immediately. We use them. I refuse to have sex without BC.
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