AITA for insisting my husband calls our daughter by her given name?
Me (30F) and my husband (35M) have been together for close to 5 years (married for 2) and just had our first daughter, Hana. I am from Japan, my husband is a European, this will be important for the story.
Before Hana was born, my husband and I had several long discussions about names. My husband was very vocal about wanting to name our first daughter Lily, said he always loved the name and always imagined a potential daughter named Lily. I like the name, but I grew up in Japan. Due to that I'm not able to pronounce some Western sounds properly, L being one of the worst. I told my husband I feel uncomfortable about giving our daughter a name I will be unable to pronounce properly. He was disappointed, we talked about it multiple times. He suggested I could try a speech therapy, which I was prickly about, because I don't feel like I have a speech impediment, it's the way I was raised. Eventually we agreed on the name Hana, which is also a flower name, and he seemed happy enough about it.
Long story short, now that all three of us are home from hospital, I caught my husband calling our daughter Lily when they're alone. He never calls her that when other people are around, only when it's just the two of them. When I confronted him about it, he laughed and said it's just a private nickname, and that a lot of people grow up being called by multiple names. I feel that he's needlessly confusing our infant child, and more importantly, I feel like he's breaking our promise when we agreed on not calling her that. I also feel a little betrayed that he's calling her a name I'm genuinely unable to pronounce properly.
AITA? Am I blowing this out of proportion or am I in the right here?
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